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Why Exercise Routines Often Fail (and What to Do Instead)
If you’ve ever set a goal to start working out and struggled to keep it going, you’re not alone. As a life coach who lives and works in Manhattan, I hear this challenge often, especially from professionals in the tech world. Despite our best intentions, things get in the way: we’re too busy, we lose motivation, our routine gets disrupted by travel, injury, or burnout. Or sometimes we just don’t know what kind of exercise fits us best.
The problem often isn’t you; it’s your environment. The good news is that you can design your surroundings and systems to work for you, not against you. By intentionally shaping the world around you, you can create the conditions that make healthy movement not just possible, but natural.
The Waterslide Analogy: Make It Easy to Flow into Motion
When I was a child, I loved going to the Jersey shore with my parents, being on the boardwalk, with Tramcars, Skeeball, and of course – the crown jewel of the boardwalk rides – the waterslide. Now, I think of building a workout habit like designing a waterslide. Three key features make a waterslide exciting, fun, and oh so easy to use:
- Reduced Friction: Water makes the surface slick, so you slide without resistance.
- Velocity is Built-In: It is sloped downhill and that gives you momentum to get started.
- High Curved Walls (Guardrails): They keep you from flying off course as you pick up speed.
Now compare that to a backyard slip-and-slide. Sure, it’s slippery, but you must run to generate speed. And there are no guardrails to keep you on track. One wrong twist and you’re off in the grass, scraped up and muddy.
When your exercise routine is designed like a slip-and-slide, it’s no wonder you struggle to stick with it. Without built-in support, you’re relying on sheer willpower, memory, and luck. But when you design it like a waterslide, when you reduce resistance, engineer velocity, and build in support, you create a structure that sustains itself.
Common Obstacles Clients Face with Workout Habits
In my coaching work with technologists and professionals, I regularly hear about the following barriers:
- “I’m too busy to work out.”
- “I start strong but lose motivation.”
- “I don’t know what to do at the gym.”
- “I push too hard and get injured.”
- “Work and life always seem to take over.”
- “I fall off track after travel or illness.”
There’s so much hidden wisdom in these statements. You might consider them failures, but they’re also signs that your environment might need to be adjusted. What if there isn’t anything wrong with you at all? What if all you need is properly designed support: with a waterslide-like structure, built for resilience, and a healthy dose of self-awareness.
The Role of Structure in Building Fitness Habits
Structure can sound restrictive, but in this context, it’s a form of care. Structure can be freeing and let you focus on your goals, instead of spending precious mindshare on solving the same problem over and over. It’s like a template for your life. Research suggests that we all have a limited amount of willpower. The right structure can offer momentum when you’re tired, ease when you’re busy, and stability when life gets messy. We can think about supportive structure in three forms:
- Tools that reduce friction, making the path smoother
- Elements that build velocity and get you into motion
- Mechanisms that act as guardrails, helping you stay aligned without veering off course
Let’s explore some practical examples across these categories. These are just some suggestions. Feel free to add your own, make some up, ask around to see what practices other people use to support their healthy workout routines. And then: pick a couple of them, try them out, see what works for you, and toss the rest. The key is experimentation – use them and see how well they work for or not. Keep going until you’ve put enough support in place to keep you on track.
A Quick Note on Health and Safety
Before beginning any new exercise routine, it’s important to make sure you’re healthy enough for physical activity. Please consult your doctor or a qualified healthcare professional – especially if you have any existing conditions, injuries, or concerns. This post is intended for educational purposes and is not a substitute for medical advice.
Reduce Friction: Make It Easy to Get Moving
- Keep basic gear (mat, bands, weights, stationary bike) in your living space
- Choose a gym near your office or apartment to minimize travel (especially in Midtown)
- Pack your gym bag the night before so it’s ready to go
- Design fallback routines that only take 10 to 20 minutes
- Develop alternate routines for travel, illness, or low-energy days
- Leave an extra pair of sneakers at work or in your car
- Book hotels with gyms or near good walking and running areas when traveling
- Buy some lightweight items, like resistance bands or a jump rope to use when you travel
- Use fitness apps to preload workouts so there’s no planning barrier
- Put on your athletic clothes even if you’re unsure you’ll work out, since momentum often follows
Build Velocity: Start with Momentum
- Start moving: it can be as simple as a little faster walk, taking the stairs, park further away from office, or just moving your body – in the park, in the backyard, at the club, on a beach – feel your body in motion. You don’t have to be limited to a gym.
- Put on workout clothes first thing in the morning to set the tone
- Place your gym bag by the door or your sneakers by your bed
- Use short, guided routines such as apps, videos, or pre-written plans
- Work with a trainer to gain confidence, structure, and routine
- Stack your workout onto another daily habit like your coffee or commute
- Sign up for a class or commit to meeting a friend or trainer
- Register for a 5K, obstacle race, or charity fitness event
- Join a local fitness group (In NYC, this might be NYRR)
- Use energizing playlists that make you want to move
- Intentionally alternate workout intensity levels to avoid overtraining
Use Guardrails: Stay on Track Without Burnout
- Schedule workouts on your calendar as non-negotiable appointments
- Set an alarm or recurring calendar alert as a cue
- Share your workout goals with someone who will check in on you
- Maintain a journal or app log of your workouts and how you feel afterward
- Use a fitness tracker or simple wall calendar to visualize your consistency
- Schedule monthly or biweekly check-ins with a coach to assess and reset
- Take photos or record performance metrics to track progress over time
- Reinforce your consistency with visual rewards like gold stars or tokens
- Create a simple ritual of reflection post-workout by noting what worked and what didn’t
- Use physical cues like moving a pebble from one jar to another after each session to mark your success
- Listen to your body’s signals around pain, energy, and recovery, and act accordingly
My Personal Approach: NYC Life, Flexibility, and Joy in Motion
When the pandemic closed gyms across Manhattan, I adapted by creating a makeshift gym in my apartment. I picked up some kettle bells, a yoga mat, foam roller, a jump rope and resistance bands. I made use of the East River walkway as much as I could. At times, I found myself jumping rope outside in Midtown or doing bodyweight workouts hanging off the ever-present scaffolding outside of my building. Flexibility was essential, I wanted to make it work.
Now, my morning exercise routine usually begins with movement. I might jog through Central Park, ride a stationary bike at home, or use the machines at my local gym down the street. No matter what the workout looks like, I plan it ahead of time. Some days are intense and focused; others are shorter and gentler. Regardless, I move my body because it improves my mood, helps me regulate my body, and keeps me healthy.
I’ve learned to tune in more deeply. There were years when I overtrained and pushed past my limits, only to wind up injured and sidelined. These days, I listen more closely to my body’s signals. I still test the edges, and I mostly know when to ease up (though I still get reminders now and then), and I treat recovery as part of the process. Recovery isn’t a break from progress; it’s an essential part of it. Fitness is no longer something I squeeze in. It’s part of who I am.
What Coaching Adds: Accountability and Sustainable Support
Coaching offers something that apps and self-tracking alone cannot. It provides a human partnership built on deep listening, perspective, and accountability. In the context of exercise, coaching helps you:
- Clarify what your version of health looks and feels like
- Design systems that align with your energy, values, and daily life
- Reflect honestly on what’s working and what needs to change
In our work, we don’t just review whether you worked out. We explore what helped, what hindered, and what you want to experiment with next. That learning process supports a transformation that is not only behavioral, but also internal. Ultimately, coaching helps reinforce your identity as someone who moves, someone who values their health—not just someone trying to keep a resolution.
Your Waterslide to Fitness: Make It Easy, Make It Yours
When you take the time to design your environment and systems thoughtfully, you shift the burden away from willpower and onto momentum and structure. Rather than waking up and wondering whether you will work out, your designed environment begins to make it a natural next step.
Create your plan. Know what kind of workout you’ll do tomorrow. Try new approaches until you find the mix that works best for you. Celebrate your process as much as the results. When setbacks come, and they inevitably will, trust that you can begin again. Beginning again is not a failure. It is part of the practice.
In the tech world, your workflow isn’t always predictable – some weeks offer breathing room, others are packed with deadlines and fire drills. But with a flexible approach and structures in place for different scenarios, you can meet yourself where you are and still make movement part of your day.
The movement itself can realign your perspective. The act of being in motion creates joy, presence, and energy. And while the journey is yours to take, you do not have to travel it alone.
References & Further Reading
- James Clear, Atomic Habits (on environment design)
- Charles Duhigg, The Power of Habit (on cues and rewards)
Or check out this blog post on my vegan journey, a lifestyle choice that complements my exercise routine.
A Note From Your NYC Personal Life Coach, Whenever You’re Ready
If something here resonated and you’d like support as you sort through what comes next, I’m here. I’m an online life coach based in New York City, working with people across the United States on mindset, clarity, and joyful personal growth.
Reach me anytime at [email protected].
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