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Seeing the Way
I’ve been thinking about reflections this week.
The most practical reflection we encounter daily might be the car mirror. It helps you see blind spots and avoid accidents. It’s an interesting starting point because while “reflection” usually implies looking at ourselves, a car mirror is really about seeing what’s around us.
Even the rearview mirror has limits. As useful as it is, you can only glance at it. You still have to keep your eyes on the road to keep the car moving. Otherwise you end up in a ditch.
At night, this navigation becomes even more precise with road reflectors. They bounce your own headlights back to you, revealing the curves and edges of the path ahead. It’s a clever use of your own light to show you where you’re going.
Reflection, at its best, helps you see what you couldn’t see otherwise. It also tends to look backward, while the road in front of you still needs to be driven.
Extending the Vision
Sometimes reflection simply extends our physical limits.
The Hubble telescope uses mirrors to peer deeper into space than the human eye ever could. A wide-angle mirror helps me see around a blind corner when pulling out of a garage onto a busy New York street. In Saving Private Ryan, a soldier fixes a mirror to a bayonet to spot danger without stepping into it.
Periscopes and dentist mirrors work on the same principle. They provide a different angle or create distance while still giving useful information. They allow us to see the back of our own teeth, a part of ourselves we can never view directly.
The Distortion Trap
But not all reflections are helpful.
A hall of mirrors is entertaining until the distortions take over. You appear too tall, too short, or fragmented, and it becomes easy to lose your sense of direction. (Interestingly, the way to escape a mirror maze is to stop looking and start touching: keep one hand on a wall and keep walking until you find the exit.)
This is the danger in the myth of Narcissus. His beauty wasn’t the problem. His absorption was. He stayed in the reflection too long and lost touch with the world.
Reflection becomes dangerous the moment you fall in love with the image.
Reflection and Reality
Photographs reveal another limitation.
A picture can evoke memory and emotion, but it is still a trick of light captured in time. If you want to break the illusion, just turn the photo over. Look at the back of the mirror or the back of your phone. The image disappears, reminding you it was never the real thing.
There is a social dimension to this, too. You will never see your own face through your own eyes. You only see a reversed reflection. In a sense, only other people ever see your real face.
This creates a strange imbalance of attention. You see it near elevators, where mirrors are installed to make the wait feel shorter. When we have our own image to look at, time seems to pass faster. We see it online too, in how often we reread our own posts compared with how closely we read a reply.
Our own image occupies more of our attention than we might expect.
From Insight to Action
All reflections share another limitation. They are ephemeral and flat, while reality has depth and texture.
Reflection is useful for surfacing patterns and noticing what went well. It helps us see bright spots, the moments that point the way forward.
But insight only matters when it turns back into action.
There is a simple way to feel this difference. Stand in front of a mirror. Touch the glass, then touch your own face.
The reflection isn’t real. You are.
Growth happens in the real world, not in the mirror. Mirrors help you see, but they don’t drive the car. Reflection helps you look into the past. Only action builds the future.
A Small Note
I think of these experiences like refilling a pillbox. Each one is a vitamin I take to stay healthy. And when I fill it, I repeat a small mantra I’ve been saying for years:
Another week.
This week, I’m putting these vitamins into my pillbox:
- Clarity: noticing what is actually there
- Reality: remembering the reflection isn’t the thing
- Growth: building the future through action