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The Time Problem
Almost everyone I know feels like they’re racing the clock.
We want time for family, time to work on things that matter to us, and time to rest. It comes out as a sigh or a gasp and a statement “I’m overwhelmed”. It feels like our hours are already spoken for. We trade time for income. We spend time maintaining our lives. We work, run errands, do chores, and meet our responsibilities.
Some days it feels like the old game Perfection. The one where you try to fit every piece into the board before the timer runs out.
Tick.
Tick.
Tick.
And then when time runs out – POP! All the pieces fly everywhere.
There you are, left to clean up the mess, reset the game, and play again. And if something doesn’t change, you’ll continue to have that nervous energy waiting for it to pop again.
Rest
I reclaim time through rest.
The clock doesn’t slow down when I slow down. But my experience of time changes.
When I rush through everything, I barely experience the things I’m doing. I move from one task to the next, already thinking about the next thing. But when I slow down, even a normal moment extends and is richer.
Rest is simple, but it’s not easy.
Sometimes I catch myself trying to relax the same way I try to complete a task. I decide I’m going to relax and then somehow turn it into something I’m trying to succeed at. Like it’s a game to win.
That never works very well.
Relaxation doesn’t really respond to effort. It shows up after I stop trying to make it happen.
Recovery
Recovery implies that something needs to heal.
There have been periods in my life when I kept pushing even though I was clearly exhausted. At the time it felt necessary. Looking back, it wasn’t sustainable.
There came a reckoning where I was forced to admit that something needed to change.
Part of recovery is stepping out of the race against the clock long so that you can begin to repair yourself.
Another thing I’ve learned is that motivation and capacity don’t always match. I might want to keep going. That doesn’t mean I have the time, energy, or attention to keep doing it well.
Capacity
We only have so much capacity.
There’s only so much time in a day. Only so much energy we can bring to our work and relationships. Only so much attention before we lose focus.
When we exceed that capacity long enough, things start to break.
Sometimes it shows up as exhaustion. Sometimes it shows up as irritability or distraction. Perhaps even numbness or cynicism.
Part of living well is learning to notice those limits before things get that far.
Time
People often talk about spending time.
We can also buy it back.
Automation, better habits, delegation, simplifying commitments, letting go of things that don’t really matter anymore. All of these are ways people reclaim hours from their day.
And this brings us back full circle to reclaiming time through rest.
The clock doesn’t stop but slowing down changes how we experience the time we already have.
Recovery doesn’t stop time. But it can change how we live inside it.
A Small Note
I think of these experiences like refilling a pillbox. Each one is a vitamin I take to stay healthy. And when I fill it, I repeat a small mantra I’ve been saying for years:
Another week.
This week, I’m putting these vitamins into my pillbox:
- Rest: stepping out of the race against the clock
- Recovery: allowing for repair
- Capacity: respecting the limits of time and energy